Thursday, January 10, 2019

Eur-in for a Treat! EF Ultimate Break New Years Trip through Amsterdam, Paris, and London (Part 1 - Amsterdam)

Many of you know that I've recently come back from a trip though EF Ultimate Break.

I want you all to know it was worth as many stars as I can give it. Great trip, great people, great experiences. All around great.

First off, though.

What is EF Ultimate Break? You may have seen ads on places like Facebook or Instagram of this group that has a map and pictures of things like buildings or gorillas or something of that sort. It talks about affordable travel for solo (or group) travelers ages 18-29.
-What do they do? Everything. And when I say everything, I mean everything. All I've had to do was sign up, pay money (with convenient payment plans), and show up. They take care of plane tickets, transportation, rooming, breakfast, guides, and so much else.

I highly recommend EF especially if you're someone like me who stinks at planning and much prefers just handing over money and being told when and where to show up. To me, it's 100% worth the price.

So I signed up for this trip within the week of returning from my Belize trip with a few of the people I went to Belize with. We had a couple of discount codes that we used on it (since we had just returned from a trip, we could use the the repeat code and a few others). Normally I probably wouldn't have chosen a European trip in winter (because the cold and I don't get along), but I was not going to pass up the opportunity to create a messenger group called "Are EUROPE for another Unbelizeable adventure?" Like I was so proud of that title there was no way I'd be that clever for any other place.

New Years in Paris: Amsterdam, Paris, London December 26-January 5

Months slowly tick by and I worked diligently on figuring out what exactly one wears in cold weather. It was more of a struggle than it really should have been, but oh well.

December 26th rolls around and there I am: packed, ready to go to the airport, determined this will be the first trip I figure out how to vlog on (or about). I get in the car and get to the airport with relatively little traffic (thanks, Ma, for driving me!). Security was a breeze to get through. I was so excited, even if I was 3 hours early for the flight (which was also going to be one of the first few to arrive in Amsterdam) but I didn't get pulled aside for security. I generally get pulled aside for extra security. I don't know why it's just a thing. I don't even make the machines beep, but still, it was exciting to not be pulled aside.

I find a good spot to sit at the gate and begin to creep on everyone on the facebook groups' profiles. For a good 15 minutes I was sitting there minding my own business, plenty of seats open, and when I looked up I'm surrounded by people. Not because there are only a few seats left, but I guess I just found the good chair (I don't know why there wasn't very good signal, nor was there a charger -- but of the 30 people within the area, 25 of them were in seats right next to me).

It was then I decided I needed to start my drinking for this trip at the airport. So I gathered my stuff, careful to not hit the sleeping infant's stroller, slowly enough so I didn't step on the crawling toddler, and backtracked to Ruby's Diner to have my very first Bloody Mary (It was a Sriracha bacon bloody Mary and it was very good).

Kevin, a friend from high school who also went on the trip, showed up to Ruby's and we caught up a bit before finally making our way back to the gate. Where we were informed the plane was delayed because something was leaking and they needed to find us a new plane.

At this point, we ended up meeting up with two others of the group and had a drink together.

Overall, the flight was delayed 2.5-3 hours. I tried to do a vlog video explaining what was going on, but since it was like one of three videos taken it didn't seem like a huge deal to add.

But we do eventually get on the plane, where I meet but don't really talk to the other two people from Houston. I tried to sleep on the flight, but only really dozed off a few times.

On December 27th, we landed in Amsterdam! Our flight wound up being the last to land and so as a group of six, we had to take a taxi to our hostel to meet up with everyone. Thankfully, we weren't the last to arrive at the hostel, someone who had arrived earlier got on the wrong EF bus.

Once we get there, since we can't check-in, we stored our luggage. I hung out a little bit with two of the three people from Belize (since Greg wound up not being able to make it), not much though. I did learn that Ashleigh left her bag on the bus (which becomes a fun story later on). Then we all as a group learned how to us the tram system they have.

From there we walked around like a large group of tourists (seriously, there were 43 of us), grabbed a few souvenirs, ate a few waffles, drank some coffee, and a few people went looking for some coffee shops.

When we could check into the hostel, we went back and did so, then got ready for our welcome mixer.

This mixer was different than the one from Belize in a lot of ways, mainly though we were all separated at different tables (which is part of why I'm glad I sat by a group of people I hadn't met yet) and there was no icebreaker game. No one really knew what the food situation was going to be like since the itinerary said "get to know fellow travelers over drinks and light appetizers" but let me tell you, at our table it was the perfect amount of food. I don't even know half of what I ate but it was all delicious, especially what I dubbed the gravy balls (they were fried on the outside but had the taste of gravy on the inside) and the chicken kebabs (even if these were super messy).

After the mixer, the groups split. Some people went back to the hostel, the rest of us went to the Red Light District. Obviously I was one who stayed out. We wandered as a large group for a bit, then shrank down and then joined back up. At this point in the night, everyone decided it was time to try out a sex show. So everyone crowded in one building that was for a peep show.

I was at the back of the line with a group of guys and they decided they wanted to find somewhere else. Since I wasn't too keen on peeping on anyone undressing or whatever the rest of the group was going to be watching, I went with them.

Which is how I wound up being the only girl in a group of six (maybe seven) that got into an actual sex show. I was also given a penis shaped lollipop as we entered the building. It was exactly what you would imagine it being, so I'm not going to explain any more than that.

Afterwards, we wandered through a few more bars and I wandered right back out of one because it was crowded and someone with a creeper vibe grabbed my butt. So one or two of the guys and I went to the casino near by. I watched people gamble, was given plenty of water from the guy in charge (who was super nice to me, found me a chair to sit in and everything).

Everyone else left except for myself and one other guy so I hung out there until he was ready to leave and we made it back to the hostel without anything scary or exciting happening, stayed up pretty late talking in the the hostel lobby/hangout area.

The morning of December 28th seemed to come way too soon, but I got up and got moving. We had our walking tour with people from the area and got to choose between three people. I went with the writer. It was amusing, but nothing terribly memorable was said. Here are a few pictures from that tour.



After the tour, we went to find food. And since everyone just seemed to be standing around debating while I was getting hungrier and hungrier, Ashleigh and I started walking and others joined us. We stopped outside this little Italian place that was right across from a dessert place that had some swell looking macaroons in the window. It was perfect! Lunch and a snack right across from each other. 

I got a chicken wrap and a glass of house red. 
It was delicious, with a hint of spiciness that just kept me wanting to eat more. Like just thinking about it makes my mouth water in want of more. 

Once we finished eating with everyone, Ashleigh and I went to go and get Ashleigh's bag from the bus driver in a different city. 

We met with the tour director and he told us where we were going and how long it should take to get there. (Amersfoort -- 1 hour there, 1 hour back.) 

I made a joke as soon as we sat down that we were going to get lost and sleep through our stop. In hopes to avoid this, I set an alarm just in case we both dozed off at about a time I figured would be good to wake up and get off the train. 

We slept through our stop. 

It wasn't as we thought an hour away, but rather only thirty minutes away. SO we freak out on the train for a little bit until the line completely stops and the conductor, ticket-checker guy comes up and tells us we need to get off. We are freaking out at this point and ask him what train we should get on to get us where we want to go. 

We get on the wrong train. Thankfully, we realize this sooner rather than later and get back off of it. Then ask the lady at the kiosk for help. When she tells us what train, we run over to it thankful that it was there. Only to realize it was the wrong train and we needed the one that was showing up next. 

Eventually though, we DO get on the right train, we DO get to Amesfoort, and we DO get Ashleigh's bag. We did hang out there for a little while on our own. There was a calmer feel to Amerfoort than Amsterdam, if only because we were about to get run over by bikes every ten seconds and there weren't nearly as many people there. 





We managed to get back to Amsterdam without any trouble. 

That night, while most of the group went to the sex show I had gone to the night before, I declined to go again and hung out with Kris and Larkin while they met up with Kris' cousin. It was an interesting night, I tried a few new beers. One of which was incredible. Too bad I've no recollection of what the beer was. I think Kris has record of it, so I'll have to get in touch with him and ask. I was informed that I missed out on that night's show because one of our group got called up on stage.

We end up meeting up with the rest of our group at some point and I meet a lot of new people. Including a Canadian who's also a Parisian Chef. His name is Nate. (There were also some named Niccolai, Danny, Mattias -- he actually spelled his name for me, and Stash -- Stash is Russian.) 

Our group adopted Nate (or forced him to hang out with us) for the rest of the night. After some fries and regrouping, we decided it was time to go home. So we walk most of the way home and I'm there trying to give my new friend Nate a hug goodbye when I turn around and everyone has vanished. 

Apparently my Guardian Angels were with me, because I (drunkenly) start walking in the general direction I thought the hostel was in and pretty quickly I can hear my group (they were the loud drunk Americans pretty hard to miss). So I catch up with them and we make our way back to the hostel. I also apparently sent a few mildly terrifying Snapchats. 

This night, I stayed up talking with someone else, similar area but completely different subjects. I mean, it's not everyday I get to talk to a history teacher so that was cool. Although when we went to bed, my head hit the pillow and then a few of my roommates started doing their hair. This was also the first day on the trip I did not take my allergy medicine, which wasn't the smartest idea. 

December 29th began without any sleep. I really should have slept some, but at this point I was still running strong on just vacation energy (plus I was still somewhat drunk from the night before). We went out into the countryside and went to a cheese factory, clogmakers place, and a windmill. 
That scarf left fuzz on everything. Like I'm still getting it off my clothes.
And for lunch we wandered down an area that reminded me a bit of Kemah Boardwalk, just much colder, and less touristy. I had fish and chips for the first time. My allergies started acting up a bit here, but they were still definitely manageable.

It was very very cold. Although the day was long and enjoyable, I didn't take a lot of pictures. Plus after getting back and eating, I was ready to go to sleep. After some games of Giant Jenga, of course. It was our last night in Amsterdam, but I didn't mind sleeping that night at all.
Yes, I did steal someone's picture of me playing Giant Jenga because I could (Thanks Kevin for taking it)


The next day we went to Paris.

I was going to put all of this in one blog, but I think it'll serve better to split it into a blog per city. So next time, I'll tell all about our trip to the City of Love. 

Until then,
Shelby

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Let's Hit 2019 Out of the Park

Nine days late for my Welcome to 2019 post.

But unlike all of my poor excuses for the past few months of lacking posts, I think my excuse for at least the first portion of being late on this one is pretty legit.

I was in Europe.

It was incredible. Although this post isn't about that trip (that post will come tomorrow).

And then I was down and out so hard I actually went to the doctor. If you know me, then you know I avoid going to the doctor unless it's absolutely necessary.

So I was on hold for an appointment yesterday for about 45 minutes before I decided to just go to Urgent Care because you don't need an appointment for those. I go in, fill out paperwork, get called back super quickly. They test me for the flu, and it comes back negative. "What else could it be?" "Well, I can guarantee it isn't strep." "Let's test for strep." "But..." "Nope, you're throat is slightly pink, it has to be strep." "I've had strep, my throat doesn't even hurt." "We'll test you for strep." That came back negative. "Are you pregnant?" "No." "Are you sure?" "Positive." "We'll test for that before moving forward." Negative. I also don't have Mono, Malaria, Meningitis, or Pneumonia.

Had I been thinking clearly, I could have saved myself so much time. You see, I get REALLY bad allergies when traveling through different cities. Goodness, I have to consistently take Benadryl at home (but I'm also allergic to my cat). I took my Benadryl the first two nights of the trip. The last time I had symptoms even close to this trip was when I was in grade school and my doctors were like "oh, she's just allergic to the air. Keep her on allergy medicine and she'll be good." 

Normally I can go up to a week without it, but between the exhaustion, dehydration (let's be honest... I drank -- but I'm legal in all countries), and other factors, I guess my system couldn't handle it.

But enough of that, you'll get a way more detailed version of my trip tomorrow.

2018 was phenomenal.

It had its high points and its low points. But the highs well outweighed the lows.

I went to so many different places. Both in the country and out.

I've met so many absolutely incredible people.

I went to Belize alone.

I became a shift lead at my work place.

I finished a first draft (and have nearly finished a second first draft).

When I started this blog back in 2016, I was an anxiety-ridden, self-conscious, unhappy child lost in a darkened room.

I begin this year, much more self-assured, much more confident, much more aware of who I am.

No, I am not perfect. I still don't have a book out yet. I still don't quite make the amount of money I wish I did (because student loans, you know).

This year, I am confident will be just as exciting, if not more.

It started out in a foreign country (or two). I'll be going on a cruise in March, wedding in Vegas, Peru in June, and a wedding in Missouri. That's probably all of the big trips, but who knows what life has planned or what sudden things pop into my view and hit my fancy.

I do plan on looking back into transcribing for extra funds since I do have a pretty high WPM, but I'll also continue putting in extra hours at work.

Writing-wise, this year I will be finishing another first draft and a second draft (at minimum).

Health-wise, I'm getting a good start in that since I've been home I've cut sugar and been eating less junk food already. I'm getting back into eating much healthier and working out again.

Who knows, perhaps this will be the year I finally actually apply for a reality show. The Bachelor and Survivor are both still top contenders XD

What are your goals for this year?

Until next time,
Shelby

Thursday, October 25, 2018

5 of the Best NaNoWriMo resources

NaNoWriMo is six days away.

That is freaking close! In preparation for NaNoWriMo, I've put together a list of great resources for those working out "last minute" details for your story.

1.) NaNoWriMo Forums. If you haven't signed up officially for NaNoWriMo, I recommend you do that so that you'll have access to the forums. They are so useful when you are stuck and need some advice on where to go.

2.) K.M. Weiland's website. One of the first writing websites I ever came across was K.M. Weiland's. It is still one of my favorites to read and even reread.

3.) Jenna Moreci's Vlog. The first video I ever saw of Jenna's happened to be her 5 hater's video (which I highly recommend you watch). She has a lot of great advice, plus she's super funny.

4.) Pacemaker Planner. I will admit, I've never actually used this, but it has been recommended to me multiple times. It helps you set up your plan/ goal and uses an algorithm to help you achieve your goal.

5.) yWriter. I know I go on and on about how wonderful Google Docs are, but if I had to choose a writer program for its adaptability, yWriter would win, no competition.

I don't anticipate posting a lot of blogs next month since I'll be trying very hard to focus on writing my new novel. My most recent problem happens to be the fact a new idea has been beating my brain. I thought I was prepared with a specific tale to tell, but... I can't concentrate on anything else but this new idea.

Also, quick subject change: I changed my hair for the first time in 15 years.

Thursday, October 4, 2018

Prepping NaNoWriMo: 6 Quick Tips for making it your best month yet!

It is that time of year again.

Less than one month before the incredible, crazy, stressful, intense, and eye-opening month many people experience as they struggle to write 50,000 words (aka a novel) in one month.

National Novel Writing Month. NaNoWriMo.

I have participated in this multiple times, and I'll be honest: I've never won.

November always gets way too hectic for me to really concentrate.

Last year, in fact, was an absolute mess. I didn't even decide what I was going to write about until three days into the month.

This year is different. This year I have a plan.

This year I am participating in Preptober.

These are tips I'm finding helpful in preparing for this upcoming writing frenzy.

1.) Decide whether you want to actually participate. NaNo is not easy. But even attempting it is worth it in my opinion.
2.) Brainstorm different ideas that could be useful. I recommend creating an outline for at least the overall structure and timeline of your idea.
3.) Sign Up for NaNo on the official website.
4.) Befriend writer buddies. (My NaNoWriMo name is Sohvanya, feel free to add me!)
5.) Breathe. This is a month to help grow as a writer, so stay calm and remember to breathe.
6.) Make a Plan. There are many different checklists and plans and other tools out there to help make a plan, between character info sheets and progress tracking forms. Just remember to plan.

My next few posts this month will be going a little more in depth about preparing for NaNoWriMo, so be prepared for that.

Until Next Time,
Shelby

P.S. If you have an artistic friend who is participating in Inktober, one way to get into the habit of writing every day is once the picture is drawn, write a short amount to go along with the picture and turn it into a story. My friend Magen and I are attempting this and although the "story" is kind of ridiculous at this point, her drawings are great and it's fun.

Friday, September 28, 2018

Why Write?

People write for a myriad of reasons. 

And I get asked quite consistently why do I write. 

My normal, go-to reason is because I'm not good at anything else. It is simple, relatively true, and either gets people to change the subject or they start arguing with me that I have other gifts. Which I generally just roll my eyes to.

I am aware that writing is not the only thing I am good at, but it IS the thing I'm good at that I enjoy the most. Even when I'm suffering from a belief that I can't even put a functional sentence together. 

What are words even? 

But writing, no matter what kind of writing I am doing at the moment, is one of those things that helps me clear my head. It helps me think things through. It helps me keep from becoming completely antisocial. 

I write this blog because what I have to say isn't unique to me. I know that. My journey, although it has different aspects that makes it MY journey, I hope that others stumble upon the blog and it helps remind them that growth at any time is possible. You can always work to become a better you. Whether it is in similar ways to me, in growing healthier mentally and physically. Or if it differs drastically. This blog is here to share my experiences. 

I write because I love stories. I always have. Stories help me express my ideas and they help me work through different things. Stories help me escape. 

I write because it's easier to express my thoughts through written words than spoken ones. 

I write because I like to create things and no matter how hard I try I can't draw or sculpt or really anything of that sort. Although I am getting better at looking at something and turning it into something tangible in front of me (such as the silhouette of a witch riding a broomstick out of cardboard at work), I'm a long way away from being able to consider myself "crafty."

I write to explore. Explore this world and others of my own creation. Explore my mind. Explore the different aspects that make other people who they are.

I write to see different sides of things. 

I write to continue learning. It doesn't matter what you write. You'll constantly be learning new things, about yourself, about others, about new things, about old things, about everything.

I write to have an excuse to step out of my comfort zone. Even if I am trying to grow as a person and get out of my comfort zone and I don't actually need a reason to do that, sometimes people look at you oddly. But if you add "hey, I'm a writer and I need to know what this experience is like," it adds some credibility to it.

I write to be able to make a positive out of everything. I mentioned not too long ago that I got my first jellyfish sting and was strangely excited about it. I was excited about it because if I ever wanted to write about a character who got something similar to a jellyfish sting, I'd be able to accurately. Anything negative that happens at all can be twisted into, this is a good experience to know what it's like so I can write more efficiently.

I write to keep my sanity. My mind is constantly working. It throws out so many different possibilities to anything and everything I might ever consider doing. It throws out different things that very likely won't occur. 

I write to write. It's fun. I enjoy it. I am pretty good at it (most of the time). That is really all the reason I need to do it. 

I don't write to make money (yet). Someday, I do hope to help pay my bills (or pay in the entirety) with my writing, but at this point I still just write because I enjoy it. 

Why do you write? Tell me in the comments!

Until next time,
Shelby

Friday, September 21, 2018

Choosing POV

There's so much to consider when planning (and writing) a novel. Or a short story. Or anything, really.

Of the many things you have to decide on Point of View is just one thing, but it can be foundational. Not only which POV but how many you use. 

Will you write within first person, second person, or third person? Will you stick with one person's POV or will you jump around between multiple different ones?

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What are the different point of views?
- First Person: This point of view is when the narrator is telling the story from his or her viewpoint. It is easy to identify because the author uses "I" and "Me" and those sort of key words. 
     Some popular examples of first person POVs are as follows:
           - Divergent Series (Veronica Roth)
           - Red Queen Series (Victoria Aveyard)
           - Hunger Games Series (Suzanne Collins)
           - Assassin's Apprentice (Robin Hobb)
           - Outlander (Diana Gabaldon)

-Second Person: This Point of view is when the narrator is telling a story to the audience as though the audience is the main character. "You did this, you went to this place." I can't say I've ever read a novel from this POV, but with that said, many of the "chapter" or "episodic" apps on the phone are in this POV. It's almost as though you have amnesia and someone is trying to catch you up on your life.
      Popular examples of second person POV (according you goodreads) are as follows:
             - You (Caroline Kepnes)
             - If on a Winter's Night a Traveler (Italo Calvino)
             - Bright Lights, Big City (Jay McInerney)
             - The Fifth Season (N.K. Jemisin)
             - The Night Circus (Erin Morgenstern)

-Third Person: Third person is where the narrator is telling the story as an outsider looking in. Words such as "he" and "she" and "they" are common. This POV can be split even further.
     1) Third Person Omniscient: This point of view is where you can see into the head of any character. You (and the Narrator) are all-knowing. 
              -The Scarlet Letter (Hawthorne)
              - The Da Vinci Code (Dan Brown)

     2) Third Person Limited: If Omniscient means all-knowing, limited is as it sounds. You can still see into people's heads, but it is limited to one or a few characters.
               - All Souls' Trilogy (Deborah Harkness - I'm not sure if her newest book Time's Convert is in the same POV)
               - Harry Potter (J.K. Rowling)
              
How to decide on Point of View?
There are a couple things to really consider when trying to figure out which point of view you want to go with.

1.) Other novels in your genre: There are some genres that do better with certain POVs. By do better, I mean that are more popular POVs in certain genres. 
      - First Person is popular within Young adult. With Third Person Limited very close behind.

2.) How much do your readers need to know? This is important because the different Points of view each give a different amount of knowledge. First person gives it directly from inside one persons head. Third person limited can give you more outward knowledge and third person omniscient gives you everything. 

Other factors:
- How many Points of view? This is the question that tends to bog people down. It's a common question on different writing groups I'm a member of. I would say use as few as is required. The more POVs, the more likely the reader is to get confused. 
      As much as I liked the Red Queen series by Victoria Aveyard (Seriously, read it if you haven't: Red Queen, Glass Sword, King's Cage, and her latest and last in the series War Storm), by the final book, I felt as though she was using way too many POVs. I didn't need to see inside the head of Maven or Iris. Three would have been a nice number to stick it with, rather than five.
- How to choose who to have a POV? The first step to deciding how many points of view you should have is deciding who you want to focus on. The most important thing to remember is who you decide to show as the POV characters will likely connect with the readers moreso than any others. Be careful to only show those you want the reader to connect with. 


With all of this said, remember it is your story. Do what you want. Everyone will have an opinion of what you're writing, be it good or bad. 

Is there anything that helps you decide on what POV to use in your writing? Comment below!

Until Next Time,
Shelby

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Thursday, August 9, 2018

Willpower is Weird.

Mental health is just as, if not more, important than physical health.

A person can work so hard to be fit and eat healthy, but without good mental health, that won't mean as much as it would with the good mental health.

Part of having a good mental health is having a strong willpower.

If you are doing a workout program or diet because of societal pressures rather than for yourself, you won't have a strong willpower to stick to it.

Mental state is 90% of the battle.

Willpower was something I've been battling with recently.

I think I tried too hard to not have a break in any of what I was doing and it just depleted any and all of my willpower.

I learned, the hard way, to not be afraid to take a cheat day in either working out or diet or writing.

It has been a few weeks of sticking with my diet strictly, but once a week, I'm still happy to splurge a bit. I'll have the cupcake or the enchiladas.

Working out, I'll take an extra rest day every so often.

It has helped so much. I'm giving myself a chance to replenish that which I've previously depleted.

Now another thing I've been doing is not spending money.  At least, any extra money. This is something that I'm concerned to give myself a cheat day.

If I buy one thing, what's to stop me from buying other things?

I do struggle with that, quite a bit. In fact that's probably the most difficult

Willpower is a weird thing.

What is the thing you struggle most with where willpower is concerned?

Until next time,
Shelby